This is my story (so far)
I am Sven. Laid back and serious. Humorous and passionate. Advocate for love. A rational and naive optimist. Nerdy about behaviour, psychology and relationships. I love my friends and family. Huge fan of traveling, food and people. And I am a sports’ enthusiast – running, gym, skiing, tennis, padel, hiking, fencing – you name it.
I feel very grateful to live my life.
I am and have always been deeply curious and passionate about peoples’ behaviour and relationships. Particularly about the relationship with oneself. It affects all your other relationships, your friendships, your work and your surrounding. For this reason, the guiding principle of my coaching is:
The quality of your life and the relationship you have with yourself are inextricably connected.
Improve the relationship with yourself and watch your life changing.
This principle became apparent throughout my own journey. Some time ago, I have struggled immensely with confidence, relationships and sexual intimacy. I felt lonely and felt incapable of maintaining a romantic relationship. Yet I had one faithful but very annoying companion – my mind. I constantly worried about what could be wrong with me and what others thought of me. Plus I felt a hole inside of me. A hole I could not fill.
Eventually, I started to find and free myself. I hired coaches & therapists and went deep. Deep into my subconscious. From day one, things shifted as I improved the relationship with myself. And – inevitably – my whole life changed. I would love for you to experience the same.
Now I made it my mission to support people to live a life with authenticity and freedom of mind & to improve peoples’ lives through healthier relationships.
I would be honoured to walk with you on your journey.
Apply to work with me
This is my story (so far)
I am Sven. Laid back and serious. Humorous and passionate. Advocate for love. A rational and naive optimist. Nerdy about behaviour, psychology and relationships. I love my friends and family. Huge fan of traveling, food and people. And I am a sports’ enthusiast – running, gym, skiing, tennis, padel, hiking, fencing – you name it.
I feel very grateful to live my life.
I am and have always been deeply curious and passionate about peoples’ behaviour and relationships. Particularly about the relationship with oneself. It affects all your other relationships, your friendships, your work and your surrounding. For this reason, the guiding principle of my coaching is:
The quality of your life and the relationship you have with yourself are inextricably connected.
Improve the relationship with yourself and watch your life changing.
This principle became apparent throughout my own journey. Some time ago, I have struggled immensely with confidence, relationships and sexual intimacy. I felt lonely and felt incapable of maintaining a romantic relationship. Yet I had one faithful but very annoying companion – my mind. I constantly worried about what could be wrong with me and what others thought of me. Plus I felt a hole inside of me. A hole I could not fill.
Eventually, I started to find and free myself. I hired coaches & therapists and went deep. Deep into my subconscious. From day one, things shifted as I improved the relationship with myself. And – inevitably – my whole life changed. I would love for you to experience the same.
Now I made it my mission to support people to live a life with authenticity and freedom of mind & to improve peoples’ lives through healthier relationships.
I would be honoured to walk with you on your journey.
Apply to work with me
Read my story in more detail below
Read my story in more detail below
My childhood
Born in Germany, close to Hamburg, I grew up with my parents and brother. My parents loved us with all their heart. Their support and guidance helped me become the person I am today. Still – due to my parents’ difficult childhoods – the blueprints for relationships and self-love I learned were not healthy. Damn generational traumas.
Early on, I learned to receive love and acceptance by being the “good boy”. Doing the right thing and doing the things right gave me approval. And since I have always learned very fast I developed an easy equation: the better I become at pleasing people, the more love I receive. On top of that, I became hyper-vigilant and learned to read and understand everyone around me to become who they wanted me to be (or at least I thought so). I became a people pleaser combined with strong doses of perfectionism and anxiety.
And since my parents – both hurt in their childhood – had not learned how to healthily deal with conflicts, frequent fights and escalations were inevitable. To cope with this stress, I learned that my people reading skills and hyper-vigilance made it possible for me to stay safe. I only needed to know how to make other people happy and smile – then I was safe. Because people who laugh don’t fight and aren’t dangerous. Humour and a positive attitude became my peace keeper of choice.
My childhood
Born in Germany, close to Hamburg, I grew up with my parents and brother. My parents loved us with all their heart. Their support and guidance helped me become the person I am today. Still – due to my parents’ difficult childhoods – the blueprints for relationships and self-love I learned were not healthy. Damn generational traumas.
Early on, I learned to receive love and acceptance by being the “good boy”. Doing the right thing and doing the things right gave me approval. And since I have always learned very fast I developed an easy equation: the better I become at pleasing people, the more love I receive. On top of that, I became hyper-vigilant and learned to read and understand everyone around me to become who they wanted me to be (or at least I thought so). I became a people pleaser combined with strong doses of perfectionism and anxiety.
And since my parents – both hurt in their childhood – had not learned how to healthily deal with conflicts, frequent fights and escalations were inevitable. To cope with this stress, I learned that my people reading skills and hyper-vigilance made it possible for me to stay safe. I only needed to know how to make other people happy and smile – then I was safe. Because people who laugh don’t fight and aren’t dangerous. Humour and a positive attitude became my peace keeper of choice.
Teenage years & early adulthood
My skills from childhood helped me immensely in school, university and jobs.
The obvious choice based on my background was to study business. And after all, a lot of money makes you happy and accepted, right!? Right!? I finished my bachelor’s in Germany and my Master’s in Sweden.
I tried many things. Sales, Marketing, Finance, Key Account Management, Consulting. After my Master’s, I started working and living in Switzerland. In a software company for financial institutions. I loved my team and my success came quickly. I felt like I should be happy about that. But I wasn’t.
My romantic relationships were a mess. Even though I gave valuable advice to all my friends around relationships. But I did not understand myself. I suffered heartbreaks, kept dating emotionally unavailable people and became increasingly afraid of intimacy.
During my 20s I was once single for more than 6 consecutive years. Without any sexual intimacy! Fear was ruling my romantic life. I ran away from compatible people or scared away healthy partners and found myself in emotionally abusive relationship dynamics.
I escaped the truth by distracting myself. With work, sports, tv shows, social media, friends, party and alcohol. A lot of alcohol.
Rock bottom & turnaround
From the outside it looked like a dream life. I had good education, a great job with the outlook of climbing the corporate ladder, was making money and could travel the world. But I was lonely inside, even though I had a girlfriend and was surrounded by friends & family. Why was I not happy?
I forgot myself. I pleased everybody else but myself. I was a tired and exhausted perfectionist. I felt no fulfilment in what I was doing. The hole inside of me grew bigger. Then my relationship ended. My "confidence" was gone. I did not know who I was. I felt empty inside.
And then. I decided to change my life.
Instead of reading other people and understanding them, I looked at myself. I looked at my past. I was never taught how to stand up for myself, how to set boundaries, how to love myself and what loving myself really means.
I worked with coaches. read countless books about relationships, love, psychology and self development. But I didn’t stop there. I went deeper. I went where the keys to a free and joyful life can be found. Into my subconscious. For more than a year, I isolated myself.
For the first time in my life I was my priority.
And my life did change.
Rock bottom & turnaround
From the outside it looked like a dream life. I had good education, a great job with the outlook of climbing the corporate ladder, was making money and could travel the world. But I was lonely inside, even though I had a girlfriend and was surrounded by friends & family. Why was I not happy?
I forgot myself. I pleased everybody else but myself. I was a tired and exhausted perfectionist. I felt no fulfilment in what I was doing. The hole inside of me grew bigger. Then my relationship ended. My "confidence" was gone. I did not know who I was. I felt empty inside.
And then. I decided to change my life.
Instead of reading other people and understanding them, I looked at myself. I looked at my past. I was never taught how to stand up for myself, how to set boundaries, how to love myself and what loving myself really means.
I worked with coaches. read countless books about relationships, love, psychology and self development. But I didn’t stop there. I went deeper. I went where the keys to a free and joyful life can be found. Into my subconscious. For more than a year, I isolated myself.
For the first time in my life I was my priority.
And my life did change.
Now
Today, a few years later, I live a different life.
A life with authenticity. With peace and joy. A life with real love. I quit my corporate job to follow my passion and purpose.
And I have real intimate relationships with people around me. With the closeness and safety I have longed for.
And now, after extensive work on myself and having learned from some of the world’s best coaches, I am here to help you. I combined everything I have learned and that I am still learning to assist you on your path.
I am fuelled by my mission and my desire to help you and other people in similar situations.
I cannot wait to work with you.
Are you as excited as I am?
Apply here
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Today, a few years later, I live a different life.
A life with authenticity. With peace and joy. A life with real love. I quit my corporate job to follow my passion and purpose.
And I have real intimate relationships with people around me. With the closeness and safety I have longed for.
And now, after extensive work on myself and having learned from some of the world’s best coaches, I am here to help you. I combined everything I have learned and that I am still learning to assist you on your path.
I am fuelled by my mission and my desire to help you and other people in similar situations.
I cannot wait to work with you.
Are you as excited as I am?
Apply here
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